Society tells us we need to create a new version of ourselves….why?
the core of who we are is freaking fabulous!
“The essence of who you are in all its awesomeness doesn’t go away”
All the subjects flying past you during this time of year is asking what you want OR how you can create a new you in 2022. I’m gonna switch up the subject and say..what do you NOT want! And even more so….why do we have to recreate ourselves into someone else? The fact is…every single one of us are pretty freaking amazing! Sure we have our quirks that need improvement, but the core of who we are is freaking fabulous!
For the last couple years, all have us have had to live through situations we didn’t intentionally sign up for. It doesn’t matter where you stand, what your beliefs are, or how you choose to lead your life. We have all been affected. The most important thing to remember this year and all the years going forward is that we do have and have always had choice! You have the right to live your life as you wish, without inflecting pain upon others (of course).
So I ask you….what do you not want to continue in your life anymore? What is no longer serving you? All of us have habits and behaviors that we outgrow. Viewpoints that have changed over the years because of life experiences/aging OR even change from learning a different perspective. So what is no longer serving you? Identifying how we hold on to creatures of the past and/or habit trends that don’t fit with who you want to be is the first step to getting there. You can dream all day of the life you in vision, the things you wish to have, the person you want to be….but all of that starts with purifying yourself of the things that no longer serve you. You can’t shift into that version of yourself if you are still playing in the patterns of the old version of yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to transform into a whole different person. The essence of who you are in all its awesomeness doesn’t go away. It’s about allowing yourself to stop the blockades that prevent you from shining your awesomeness to the world!
Lets break that down?
1- External influences can have a profound effect on our mindset. How do the people you spend your time treat you and those around you? Do they lift you up and provide support? Are they treating others with love and respect? Do they have attributes that are things you yourself align with and want to continue in your life? Making sure you have a good support system and proper mental support in your daily interactions influence how you view yourself and what behaviors you believe are acceptable. When you have influences that knock you down when you’re striving for more, you start to distrust in your capabilities. This then creates a perpetuating thought to question what you put your energy into. Now, I do understand that all of us are not perfect, we were never supposed to be. We are creatures of habit and need to constantly self reflect to make sure we are evolving and creating better things in your world. So on that note, if your friends are encouraging you to address your traits that keep getting you in rut….remember these people are not trying to bring you down, they are merely trying to influence you to rise above your obstacles so you can stop the cycle of rutsville.
2- How are you treating yourself? Are you constantly beating up on yourself for not getting things done, running out of time, or not taking the time for yourself? Cut yourself some slack. Sometimes the things we have to learn about ourselves most is allowing ourself to take the time that is needed in the moment. And sometimes that’s just a nap! Allow your body time to recuperate from the stress we face. Start setting time aside for the things that help you re-ground. Whatever that looks like for you…this could be journaling, meditation, acupuncture, working out, an activity, or even taking a nap. ALLOW yourself to self-care. You know what you need…sometimes we are just afraid to admit it or more likely feel guilty saying so.
3- Choice. Choice is a huge subject today. Every time I think of the word choice, I reflect back to the bad hair-cut that I’m sure all of us have received. This is the one we witnessed heading in the wrong direction, but stayed silent in hopes it wasn’t going that way. The best part is when all is finished….sure enough we are shocked with the results! We all made a choice in that moment. We choose to not say anything and then got upset with the result. Now, I’m not by any means encouraging people to just start blabbing around town what their opinions are. We need to be aware that constant expression of opinion does not respect peoples space or their process through their life phases. It’s about an awareness of what your choice brings. Not telling your hair person during the process so that you both remain on the same page is a choice you took and in return you were a contributing factor to the end result. Acknowledgement of choice is also an understanding of accepting accountability for the decisions we make. If we preach peace, love, and harmony, but then turn around and criticize others for their choices…we are then promoting judgment and ridicule.
We need to realize that we are all different as we are supposed to be, because what a boring world would we have if it was all cookie cutter and Stepford wives. I encourage you all to start reflecting on behaviors and image you want to project to the world. Once you have figured out what that is….start creating steps to keep you on track with the path.